LESSONS I'VE LEARNT AS A PASTORS WIFE

One of the positions of life that many women getting married are quite unprepared for is the position of THE PASTOR'S WIFE.

Nothing really prepared me for it. I was ordained a Pastor about 4 years before I got married to my beloved husband. After the wedding, it took me a while to embrace the fact that although I was still a Pastor;  I was now a Pastor's Wife, and things were not the same. It looked the same but after a while it glaringly did not feel the same. 

For a long time I tried to function as I did prior to the marriage but heaven knows if it was a figment of my imagination or in actual fact but the feelings were real to me at the time. I was only the Pastor's Wife. 

I'd struggled internally for quite a while until I sat under the tutelage of the Holy Spirit and began to understand a few things that have been my 'tools' for overcoming the general oftentimes uncontrolled feelings of a Pastor's Wife i.e. like a fish in a bowl. The feeling that you belong yet it seems you don't. It's some complicated feeling that only another Pastor's wife may understand. 

It's funny how at some point very early in the marriage, I would put my beloved husband under pressure and bless his soul for not succumbing to my pressure. It's a truism of scripture that "My people perish for lack of knowledge" Hosea 4:6 I didn't know better.  I had no mentor or coach at the time neither did I have an example to follow. 

As I began to wade further through the pages of scriptures and sat voraciously under the tutelage of the Holy Spirit, I began to learn quite a few lessons and I hope as a fellow Pastor's Wife you would find them enlightening and encouraging.

Before I continue, I need you to know that YOU matter. You are a priceless gift from God sent to bless your world. 

1. My position as the wife of the pastor is NOT a calling but as it is, the Pastor's Wife.
2. I am not the Pastor of the people but their Pastor's Wife
3. I can Pastor God's people but only from a place of calling, relevance and value but not from the position that my husband is a Pastor.

4. My relevance and sincere honour from the people are only based on my personal effort to be a blessing to the people.

5. The scriptures cannot be broken and it's true "The gift of a man, makes room for him" Prov 18:16

6. No one owes me anything but that I have the responsibility under God to use every available gift and resource in my power to serve God through serving His people. 

The position of a Pastor's Wife is really and truly an honourable position to occupy. It has its glory moments and hay days. However, to be relevant and fulfilled as a person, these mindsets that make one feel entitled prior to deploying ones gifts to serve God's people, must be debunked. 

I personally believe that I am a gift from God to the world, positioned or not, titled or not, acknowledged or not.   I embrace Jer 29:11 where the LORD assures me of His good thoughts and planned future!

To every Pastor's Wife out there I'd say ARISE SHINE for your light is come and the glory of the LORD is risen upon you!!!

Your sister in faith